Healthy Relationships


Signs of a healthy relationship

·         Take care of yourself and have good self-esteem independent of your relationship

·         Maintain and respect each other’s individuality

·         Maintain relationships with friends and family

·         Have activities apart from one another

·         Are able to express yourselves to one another without fear of consequences

·         Are able to feel secure and comfortable

·         Allow and encourage other relationships

·         Take interest in one another’s activities

·         Do not worry about violence in the relationship

·         Trust each other and be honest with each other

·         Have the option of privacy

·         Have respect for sexual boundaries

Signs of an unhealthy relationship

·         Put one person before the other by neglecting yourself or your partner

·         Feel pressure to change who you are for the other person

·         Feel worried when you disagree with the other person

·         Feel pressure to quit activities you usually/used to enjoy

·         Pressure the other person into agreeing with you or changing to suit you better

·         Notice one of you has to justify your actions (e.g., where you go, who you see)

·         Notice one partner feels obligated to have sex or has been forced

·         Have a lack of privacy, and may be forced to share everything with the other person

·         You or your partner refuse to use safer sex methods

·         Notice arguments are not settled fairly

·         Experience yelling or physical violence during an argument

·         Attempt to control or manipulate each other

·         Notice your partner attempts to controls how you dress and criticizes your behaviors

·         Do not make time to spend with one another

·         Have no common friends, or have a lack of respect for each others’ friends and family

·         Notice an unequal control of resources (e.g., food, money, home, car, etc.)

·         Experience a lack of fairness and equality